By Daisy Whitney
Unless you are contentedly enjoying a long-term committed relationship or are blissfully deep in the
throes of new love, Valentine's Day probably doesn't rate high for you. That's because it can underscore a single person's aloneness, says Dr. William Merkel, psychologist and author.
"It can be a magnet for disappointment. You can feel like a freak, outside the norm, outside the culture," he says.
Valentine's Day can be particularly tough in you are divorced or mourning a bad relationship. It's completely normal to feel depressed on a day that emphasizes romance and relationships, says Dr. Lane Neubauer, director of Health Services at La Salle University in Philadelphia.
Don't ignore those feelings, she says. Instead, identify what you are feeling and face them so you can work through them.
"This is the time to be kind to oneself. Surround yourself with supportive friends who you can talk openly with about what you are feeling," she says. 'Treat yourself to something you've been wanting for a long time."
Best of all, remember Valentine's Day is only 24 hours long and the next day is a whole new normal day.
But before you can get to Feb. 15, you'll need to make it through Feb. 14. To help you along, we've assembled strategies for surviving another Valentine's Day solo. Here are the 'best of" tips compiled from Dr. Neubauer, Dr. Merkel, life coach and author John Seeley, and Dr. Ian Cook at UCLA.